Alicia's Food For Thought


Becoming More Me
June 28, 2010, 11:59 PM
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One month from tomorrow I will be back in the United States and I can’t believe I have been gone for about 6 and a half weeks. I think this internship in Thailand has given me a lot of time for me to think about myself. Usually in New York I don’t have time to really think about why I am doing things or what do my actions say about me, etc. I am not sharing this in a narcissistic way but rather for self reflection.

Being in a different country has really shown me how pretty damn “American” I actually am. I always thought that I had a good sense of balance of being “Asian-American” and that I would be able to blend in well with my Asian roots but as the Thai interns so kindly (or not so kindly) remind me how American I really am. I am loud, opinionated, direct, argumentative, self-righteous, and really have low sensitivity towards others’ backgrounds. I use to take pride in “winning” and creating situations where it is either my way or the high way and if you aren’t along for the ride, I’ll see you on the flip-side. People have told me in the past that I am “rough around the edges” and I used to be defensive and huff a “You don’t know me” tough attitude in response. My parents used to tell me that I need to be more “gentle” and softer with the way that I act. Again, I would be really offended and be curt with my words and say, “Stop trying to change me! Why can’t you accept me for who I am?” I’ve built up these walls that are so thick that it is harder and harder identify more with who I am on the inside versus who I present myself as on the outside.

But is that who I really want to be? Do I want to be considered a “tough bitch” and to follow my HBIC (Head Bitch in Charge) ways? I realize more and more while I am here that I don’t want to be that person. I don’t want to be this person pent up inside and who will cut you down before pulling you back up. And that may not really be “me”. We just celebrated Nick’s (another intern and my closest friend here) 21st birthday this weekend in Chiang Rai and we talked about how much growing he has done this past year in his life and how he feels like he is more himself. It really got me thinking about who do I want to “become” and how do I define what my life is going to look like? I’ve noticed I’ve changed a little bit while I am here by the things that I say and how I simply ask questions. Before I would be very “American” and ask very direct questions acting like “I am here to help you, dammit! Your way is obviously stupid and not working so answer this question so that you realize that my way is obviously better.” OK, maybe not that extreme but you get the drift. I asked questions like I was very entitled and that my “American Private University Education” allowed me to become an expert on how the foundation should function. I needed to take a step back and realize that there is a balance and a flow to the knowledge exchange. Yes, of course I am very helpful in giving them guidance on how their website can function better BUT they have a lot to teach me about humility, being intuitive about other people’s feelings/wants/needs, and about how to be a good person in general (things a Private University can’t teach me). There are also other small things like how I’ve noticed the Thai interns share EVERYTHING and they don’t count who owes who etc. Very un-American where I usually count exactly how much you owe me to the very penny or better yet, let’s not share to begin with so we don’t need to get into this messy situation of trying to even out the score. Really, there is no reason for me to be such a miser, these are only temporary things that don’t matter. Every time a Thai intern offers me anything they are symbolically saying, “Look, the cost of sharing this papaya with you is nothing compared to the value of spending more time with you.” So I took my ego down a notch and now I do want to be more gentle with not just myself but with others as well and to not get so caught up in the murk of looking out for only “What’s in it for me?”

So here is to a new leaf, page, or whatever metaphorical word you would use for a new outlook on life. I like myself more now.

Alicia Kim

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Faces of Rural China
June 8, 2010, 2:44 AM
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rural china

man in rural china

children in rural china

boy in rural china

old man in rural china

amelia in the mountains of china



Alicia is Alive!

Hello readers and the world!

I haven’t had much access to the internet for the past 3 weeks, so I haven’t been able to blog about my abroad adventures until now. I actually really enjoyed not having access to the internet, it felt like a good cleansing of my mind since I do spend so much time on the computer. I really got the chance to reflect on my own thoughts without any distractions. But now that I do have the internet, I want to shift in just reflecting on my thoughts to actually writing/video blogging them down so that I can go back to them during the school year.

So in Hong Kong and China I was taking a class at New York University called Global Social Entrepreneurship. Originally the class was supposed to take place in Thailand at the Mae Fah Luang Foundation (where I currently am interning), but due to the violence and turmoil happening the class was cancelled and Richard (one of our classmates) decided to come up with a replacement program in Hong Kong and his hometown in China. We all had a great time on our crazy adventures and even though I am not sure how much I’ve learned about social entrepreneurship, I definitely learned a lot about myself (all of which I will share in later posts).

Since we were in Hong Kong, we ate a TON of dim sum. I actually need to confess and let you know that I actually put my vegetarianism on hiatus for the two weeks we were in Hong Kong and China. I wanted to get the full experience of eating authentic Chinese/Cantonese food. Also, I did not have any control over the food that we ordered. Most of the time we had Richard order the food for the table and we ate whatever was ont he table. One thing I made sure of is that the meat was locally produced before I ate it.

Here are some samples (and pictures of food of course) from the trip to give you a taste of Hong Kong/China:

hong kong market

world peace cafe

hong kong dim sum

hkust dim sum

alicia in hong kong

macau food

chinese food

lazy susan

amelia

chinese rice field

Chow,

Alicia Kim
Food for Thought Resident
alicia.foodforthought@gmail.com